09.14.06
Of Sincerity and Wedding Vows
Ever since our wedding was featured in a local bridal magazine, doors have been opened for me to participate more actively in the wedding scene in Malaysia. I have been receiving the strangest request too, including a request to write a wedding vow!
How strange, I thought. If there were many vows that a person would make in his or her life, there will be only one vow which you can only make once - and that would be your wedding vow. It would be the most sincere thing that you would say to the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. That would be your vow to the person whom you will wake up to every morning. And that would be a vow that will keep you together - happily married, as it was meant to be.
Looking back to our very own wedding, I had started drafting my vow even the week after he proposed to me! I wanted it to be meaningful and beautiful. We had planned to exchanged our vows during our garden reception, but we eventually changed the plan. We finally exchanged our vows at the only place which we thought was worthy of such event - in the church where I grew up.
My vow actually didn’t turn out as beautiful as I wanted it to be, but I am sure that I was being true to myself. And I am glad that I did so.
So to my dear friend whose name I can’t reveal here, I can’t really write your wedding vow on behalf of you. It has to be one thing that you have to write for yourself. It doesn’t need to be beautiful, but being truthful would be the best thing to do. And I know you can do it. And I will be there listening to you when you exhange your vow with him.
It would be beautiful, no matter what you say, because sincerity shines through even the lousiest speech ..
07.18.06
Wake up and smell the coffee!
I woke up this morning realising that there are three things playing in my head. One - the Tsunami that hit Java’s coast killing over 100 people last night. Two – the haze situation in northern Malaysia has worsen, and Three – Siti is getting married to Datuk K!
I switched on the radio and found that most channels are discussing over the third issue – The wedding of our Malaysian Sweetheart. The Deejays and callers spoke about the issue to the finest details, from how Siti met Datuk K and the financial and personal background of them. The discussion also extended to the lengths of the marriage plan which will take place in a ‘garden wedding‘ setting and who are invited to the wedding and who are not.
I am both amazed and surprised how we tend to channel our energy and time into the personal lives of the celebrities. Not much was mentioned about the latest update on the Tsunami aftermath in Java. And not much was mentioned about the haze condition in northen Malaysia too. It seemed that Siti’s gossips have overshadowed all these important issues.
Siti undoubtedly is our Malaysian Sweetheart. She has made us proud with her many achievements without compromising our malaysian cultures and traditions. She brought to us numerous beautiful and touching songs, especially those love ballads which can easily touch our hearts. And now that she has found the man of her love, we should all give our blessings and best wishes to her. And let’s leave them alone to have some privacy to start their family.
And the rest of us Malaysians should now channel our energy to the right places! Are volunteers needed to help out the Tsunami victims? Or are we too busy discussing about Siti that we forgot to stock up on face masks if the haze condition worsen in the next few days?
It’s time for us to wake up and smell the coffee!
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Added by localview on 19 July 2006 : This article has been renamed by the-star’s editor to “Siti talk swamps tsunami news” and is published on today’s The Star’s Opinion Section.
